Sunday, 30 October 2016

Let's Catch Up // Life Lately & Sunday Thoughts


Life has been go go go this month. Uni work has really started to flood in and it's been hard to find a free moment where I don't want to just curl up and watch Gilmore Girls. But I'm here now - that extra hour from the clocks going back really does make a difference!

Last weekend I went home to London to stay with my Mum and Gran and it was just what the doctor ordered. (It could have literally been what the doctor ordered to be honest since being at home and eating good food finally shook off the cold I'd had going for nearly a month before!) As much as I love Exeter there's no place like home and it was just wonderful to potter around and get my work done in the comfort of my own room.

At the start of this week I hopped on the train from London to visit my lovely friend Lish in Newcastle where she goes to university. It was so nice to be able to explore a new city and spend quality time with her talking about anything and everything. We both found it funny how we can spend one moment talking about life, friendships and the future and what it might hold, and the next taking fifteen minutes to talk purely about food and how much we love it. If that's not the mark of a true friendship I don't know what is...

But, seriously, walking around Newcastle really gave me the chance to appreciate Autumn and how beautiful it is. As much as I love Summer even I have to admit that I'm not sure you can beat walking around on a crisp, sunny day admiring the beautiful colours of the leaves falling off the trees around you. It was simply dreamy.

Since I got back to Exeter things have been markedly less dreamy as I've been playing catch up on all my work. With three essays coming up I'm not sure how much time I'm going to have over the next month or so to dedicate to this little space. I'm aiming for once a week but we'll see how it goes. I want to keep The Girl in the Moon as somewhere I can come to write when I'm really feeling it and not just another thing I know I need to tick off on my to do list.

When I'm in the midst of uni coursework it's not always the easiest to think up things I'd like to write about, especially because I'm not out doing exciting things like I got to this Summer. So I'm hoping you'll bear with me as I inevitably become a bit of a hermit in the run up to Christmas (can't believe I'm writing that but it's less than two months to go now!). I'll be here as much as I can is what I'm essentially trying to say but there might be some gaps here and there.

I know this post hasn't really had any coherence to it but I wanted to combine letting you know what I've been up to over the last week with my thoughts on blogging as of late. Just to make this post even more confusing I'm going to leave you with a link to this video which you absolutely must watch. I didn't know I could love Sara Bareilles any more than I already do but apparently I can! The song is just brilliant and sums up what I'm sure many people are feeling about the current US presidential election fabulously.

I'll sign off there - I hope you're all having the most wonderful of weekends!

Friday, 14 October 2016

Four Friday Reads


I'm off to Nottingham today to see some of my favourites from home so this week has been incredibly full what with lectures, work and me trying to get ahead with next week's reading because there is no way that any work is being done this weekend! This all meant I hadn't had time to put together a post for this week. So instead I thought today I'd share four things I think you should read this Friday to set you up for the weekend. I hope you find something interesting to glance at and that you all have wonderful weekends! Aaaand now I'll stop rambling and actually get on with it...

1 // Oh Comely - Oh Comely is the most beautiful magazine I think I've ever seen. I discovered it a few months ago and have since subscribed to it because the joy flicking through its pages brings me is something that's definitely worth investing in. It's an incredibly well-curated magazine and one I'd really recommend picking up if you're on the hunt for a new magazine this weekend - the latest issue has only just been released!

2 // Meg Fee 'On eating disorders and the physicality of depression and one's own ever-after' - Meg always writes the most stunning pieces and this is no exception. This one especially is a must-read in my eyes.

3 // Blog Socks - Blog Socks was recently set up by the lovely Charlotte and features a range of fabulous bloggers. Trying to find new blogs to spend hours getting lost in instead of doing work peruse isn't the easiest anymore and, by featuring bloggers by asking them some fun questions, Charlotte has made sure that it's so much easier. There are some real gems being showcased over there at the moment and my own little blog will be sometime soon as well which is very exciting so definitely check it out!

4 // Anne T. Donahue: That's What She Said 'On Being Liked' - Anne's newsletter is one of my absolute favourites but this particular edition, on being liked, I haven't been able to stop thinking about since it popped in my inbox a couple of weeks ago. She completely hits the nail on the head and you simply MUST read this.

Thursday, 6 October 2016

S T R E S S & How To Deal With It


Last week I wrote that I was feeling pretty on top of everything. But this week not so much. It just goes to show how quickly you can go from feeling on top of the world to rock bottom. What I find difficult to remember when I feel incredibly stressed is that those feelings work both ways - just as I've gone from feeling great to stressed and anxious within the space of a few days, tomorrow I could go back to feeling on top of everything. Life is never constant and, while that can be frustrating, it's also what makes it so exciting.

Deep down I know that the things I'm anxious about at the moment won't matter all that much in the scheme of things. I think I'm still just getting settled into a new routine and, because I'm so tired and run down from getting used to everything (side note: why are colds a thing?!), it all seems much more stressful than I'm sure I'll find it in a few months.

I had a straw that breaks the camel's back moment at the weekend when my phone broke. I'd been on the phone to my insurance company for what felt like an age only to get cut off and then be told I'd have to pay money I don't have for them to fork out what I'd already paid for in my insurance contract, for them to finally give in, send me a replacement and for me to then make a cock up which meant I had to go into town and sort it out. Wow, even that sentence stresses me out. Needless to say it was far too much adulting on top of the things I already had to deal with for me and I was a bit of an emotional wreck as a result.

I'll be the first person to throw my hands up and admit that that is a hugely first world problem and I do know how lucky I am to have so many things I need to do as the result of all the privilege I have. But, hey, you have what you have right? And in that moment, it felt a bit too much. I felt like I didn't have time to deal with any of those things. And, I don't know about you, but for me I feel at my most stressed and anxious when I suddenly feel like there is just NO TIME and I need to do everything at once.

Of course, these is time, everything will be ok and the *worst* thing you can do is try to do everything at once. One of the defining moments last week for me oddly enough took place in the EE shop. I had been told I had to wait in the shop and couldn't leave while they sorted out my phone but, because I'd rushed to the shops panicking I didn't have enough time for everything, I hadn't got anything in my bag to look at/do while I waited. Essentially, I was stuck with my own thoughts and nothing else to do for fifteen minutes.

Those fifteen minutes forced me to just be. To internally calm myself down, gain some perspective and, most importantly, realise that the world was not going to end because I took those fifteen minutes to do nothing despite the fact that I had a lot of things I needed to do. Turns out, the world keeps on turning whether you tick off your to do list when you want to or not. And those fifteen minutes did me the world of good.

I'm still stressed and anxious but I'm trying to keep in mind the thoughts I had in that EE shop. I'm taking time every day to just think and breathe. Essentially I've unintentionally jumped on the mindfulness wagon. It's unbelievable living in a world that never seems to stop how everything can seem stressful, even just staying on top of my Instagram and Twitter feeds. So taking time out and putting all technology away even just for a few minutes is my biggest piece of advice on how to feel less stressed and anxious.

If you're feeling similarly to me then please know that you're not alone, we all feel like this at times and the most important thing is to look after yourself - and that means taking time for yourself even when you don't think you have it.